Occasionally Rich will ask me, "what are your dreams"? Along with being rich and famous (J/K), I always have to tell him that I AM living my dream. When I was a little girl, it was my dream to be a mom and wife. Now that I am one, I can truly say it is a dream come true. Now don't get me wrong, our life is not perfect. I don't mean this to be boastful or to let on that our life is perfect, it's not. I only mean to say that I wouldn't have it any other way.
Just like most of you, my life is filled with tears and fighting, scraped knees and huge goose eggs, mental health challenges and constant messes. The laundry is never done, and the fingerprints on our glass never seem to get cleaned off. But to me right now, this is wonderful! It is part of our journey as a family and it is what makes me happy.
I love catching our little family in moments where we're all laughing and smiling. I love it when we dance together or play games or wrestle. I love it when I have moments of clarity and realize how truly blessed I am.
I've noticed that this feeling almost always lies in my attitude and perspective. A couple months ago, I found myself irritable, ornery, and difficult. Lately I've been waking up everyday with a smile on my face with excitement for the day. The difference: my attitude. Nothing in our lives has really changed in the last two months, except my perspective. I decided to focus on my blessings and the positive in my children and husband. When I did this, I became happier. I can chalk my feelings up to hormones, the change of the weather, or sleep deprivation, but for me it ultimately comes down to a conscious effort to focus on the positive in my life.
I don't mean to trivialize the feelings of depression that some people feel. I know that these are real and that "thinking happy thoughts" doesn't work for everyone. For me however, this truly does seem to work.
Anyway, enough of my ramblings today. I just felt like saying, I love being a mother and wife. It brings me so much joy.
8 comments:
So, so true. Positive thoughts help in many ways. Satan wants us to be discouraged and think we can't do anything. The Savior does not want us to feel that way. I am so glad you are living your dream. Many days I feel I am as well. Other days not so much. Those days it would be so nice to put on my running shoes and run as far away as I can. I am sure I would probably come back home. I would just miss it too much. I love being a mom and wife.
I love those moments in life when you feel so happy and blessed. It does make such a difference to focus on being positive and happy. You have such a cute family! Your kids look darling in their costumes. Hope you had a great Halloween.
what great perspective. i definitely need to work harder to see the positive as i am in the "trenches" right now. i find myself saying "is this what i thought it was going to be like?" i do agree about being positive with your spouse. it sure makes a difference. i think there are times in mothering when it is more enjoyable than others but it's good to look for the joy. i wouldn't choose to do anything else.
Being a mom is the best and hardest job anyone will ever do. There are days when I just want to lock myself in my room and other days when I can't believe how blessed I am to be able to stay home when so many others do not have that luxury. Perspective is everything!
Well said! I agree that it makes a huge difference in how you look at things...just remember that those little fingerprints go away in a short time, so enjoy them while they are there.
Being a Mom is the best job. I wouldn't trade it for the world. You are so awesome to have such a great attitude......it is definitely something that I'm still working on. Perspective can really change your whole life.
I agree with what everyone has said. Perspective is hard to have when you just aren't feeling like this is what you signed up for when you got married and had kids. And then something happens to bring perspective back and then you can appreciate everything that you have in your life. I'm glad you are "Living the Dream"!
I don't know how I missed this, but am so glad I'm seeing it now. My dream as a little girl was also to be a wife and mom. So much of how we feel and ultimately act really is determined by attitude. I've noticed this especially since having two kids and especially when Sally is acting her age. Your kids are so lucky to have you. And they are adorable- love the pictures.
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